“He has robbed me, yet he has given me something of greater value . . . he has given to me myself.”
“He has robbed me,” who?
It had come to my realization right as I was reading this quote that its meaning closely relates to one of my favorite films (500) Days of Summer. Although in this case, I would replace the “he” of the quote with a “she,” but before elaborating more on this and also the ties between this film and quotation from Siddhartha, let us first catch up on what this film is actually about.
For those who haven’t seen (500) Days of Summer, to cut things short, the plot tells of a hopeless romantic Tom Hansen who lives his life searching for his one true love. One day while at work, he meets a young woman, Summer Finn, with whom he instantly forms a connection because of their common interests in music. While getting to know Summer, he starts to like her even more, but is suddenly discouraged when Summer reveals how she believes that love is a scam and “true love” and soul-mates” are nothing but a fantasy. Without getting into too much detail, let’s just say that because of their opposite perspectives on love, their relationship does not end happily ever after.
How I’ve connected this film and quote is that because of Tom’s strong urge to find his one love, he basically opens his heart out to anyone who might have the slightest interest in him. Summer, living life oppositely, does not believe in “soul-mates” and “true love.” She lives life spontaneously and throughout the film, plays with Tom’s heart with that same attitude. So, “he,” being Summer, robbed Tom’s heart. “He” took something that meant so much to Tom without thinking about the consequence of hurting him. As devastated as Tom felt, little did he know that because of his played around feelings, tossed back and forth to Summer, he was able to find something he couldn’t have ever imagined–something of “greater value.” Quitting his job and ready to start over, he bumped into someone who genuinely did like him, someone who possibly could be the one. Looking it over, without Summer’s playing around with his feelings, he couldn’t have come to this point in his life, wanting to start anew, bumping into his possible “true love.” To him and to the audience, it’s understandable to think that Summer robbed Tom of his feelings, but really in retrospect, she gave him that push to move on and shake away from this idea that love is the solution to all problems. She helped him find something better. She helped him to become something more of himself.
This quote can fit in many scenarios, but since we’re on this topic, it fits to say that love is unpredictable. There will be relationships where one might see a possible future while the other may see the total opposite and it’ll be difficult to read. But even so, do not be afraid to test the water. The worst that can happen is that it doesn’t work out. Just because one person isn’t the one, don’t stop there because you never know. With every person who “robs” your heart, just remember that with every person you meet, there is a purpose. They’re either a blessing or a lesson. Learn from all the lessons because it’s from that that you will develop and finally discover your blessing. Your “greater value” is somewhere in this world and in some point in your life, you will find it. Do not lose hope and keep moving forward because that is how you will become a better you.
“People change. Feelings change. It doesn’t mean that the love once shared wasn’t true or real. It simply means that sometimes when people grow, they grow apart.”